So this blog I’m writing for the girls… I have heard a lot lately from girls who are having issues with boys…been hearing lots of “boy drama”. I think almost all girls like to have someone who likes them or thinks that they are pretty. It feels good doesn’t it? I mean which one of us doesn’t want to feel special? We all do! But we don’t have to look outside to find someone to make us feel this way. As children of God we should always know we are special and loved and looked upon as beautiful in Gods sight. But eventually we will all go through a time when we have to deal with boys.
It has its good and bad ways of showing up at our doors someday and we all need to know how to handle it. None of us will handle it perfectly, but if we hand it over to God he will have his perfect plan worked out through it all. I know this sounds kinda harsh… but most girls are very easily deceived into believing things that aren’t necessarily true. And we all need to make sure that we are in Gods’ word every day and that we are having a close relationship with Him so that he will be our voice and mind when we get into sticky situations. The first guy to like you might be the one. But there is also a very big chance that he isn’t. And we need to be wise and discerning in seeing a difference in a guy who “likes you” or who “loves you”. There is a difference and many people think that the two are one in the same. You don’t want to marry a man who ”likes” you. Because in the long run most likely that’s all he ever felt for you. It was a like for your outer beauty and he might have had the wrong mindset in liking you and it may all end up in tears and hurt. A man who loves you will look past your outer beauty and see the girl you are inside and think how wonderful it is that God created a woman like you. And he will want to see that you are happy and love for who you are. Now, I’m not saying that the first guy to “love” you is the guy either. We need to have an understanding of guys that will treat us with love and we need to be sure we can live with them. You don’t want to marry a “good guy” who you don’t really like but you know he loves the Lord and all that. You need to marry someone who you know you can love every part of him. Even his quirks and weird mannerisms. You might wonder why I started this with girls having boy problems and went immediately into talking about marriage. And here is why, I believe that in America these days people think way to much of dating and having boyfriends. And with each boy, each kiss, each thought, you give a little piece of your heart away. And by the time you find the man who God intended for you, you have given away most of your heart to these other men. We need to guard our hearts for our future husbands. Even if we have a few relationships before we find “the one” we can use them for learning and growing in Christ.
I encourage you girls to think of the good and bad of starting relationships when you are young or not ready for a relationship. Most of them will only cause pain in the long run…
Take your feelings and relationships before God and let Him work in your life. He knows whats best.
Every relationship won’t be perfect. Some of us might fall into sin…some of us might have a wonderful story to tell our children someday. If you are still unmarried and young I beg you to put thought into every step you take. One little slip can lead you down a long road of misery and pain. For those of you who might have already done some things you regret I want you to know that it is never to late to turn things around. God says he throws our sins and transgressions into the deepest part of the sea and will never see them again. So after we have repented of sin we don’t need to think about it anymore or wonder what people think of us because we only need to please God, not man. And if you have already handed it over to God stop feeling guilt. It’s gone. Washed away. All that’s left is for you to turn to God and let Him transform your life.